In which the Pilgrim venerates Mary as mother of Jesus in every sense, dwells on family and faith, and longs to be a true Brother of Christ.
Then his mother and his brethren came to him, but they could not reach him for the crowd. And he was told, "Your mother and your brethren are standing outside, desiring to see you." But he said to them, "My mother and my brethren are those who hear the word of God and do it."
—Lk 8:19-21, Gospel for Tuesday of the 25th Week of the Year
Jesus' words here can seem harsh (Mark's version even more so) and there are those who take this verse out of context and used it to denounce the rightful veneration shown to Mary. These objections, and Jesus' relationship to his mother can be easily righted by actually listening to the words Jesus speaks here in light of the rest of the Gospels and Jesus' other teachings.
First, if we are to take Jesus at his word that his mother would be one who hears the word of God and does it then there is no one more qualified for this position than Mary of Nazareth. For at the Annunciation, when she had heard the words of the angel that carried the Word of God, she replied with her most perfect and free-willed "Fiat." "Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word." (Lk 1:38) She whom the angels called full of grace (see Lk 1:28) is the perfect handmaid of the Lord whose eyes are ever raised to heaven, as those of a handmaid on her mistress, (Ps 122 ) watching for the slightest command and fully prepared to carry it out. Even divorced from her genetic maternity, there is no woman in heaven and earth more suited to the title "Mother" by Jesus' own words.
But let us take the opposing route: what if Mary were not a woman "full of grace" who had uttered the perfect "Fiat" but merely was the earthly mother of Jesus of Nazareth (as if the word "mere" could be applied to anyone from whom the Son of God received his flesh). Then she would still be afforded no less honor.
When the Rich Young Man asks "what must I do to obtain Eternal life" our Lord replies "You know the commandments: 'Do not kill, Do not commit adultery, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Do not defraud, Honor your father and mother.'" (Mk 10:19) Christ, whose food is to do the will of the Father (Jn 4:34), warned, "Do not think that I have come to abolish the law and the prophets; I have come not to abolish them but to fulfill them." (Mt 5:17) Jesus who was like us in all things but sin (Council of Chalcedon, cf. Heb 4:15), and thus subjected himself to the Law, would honor his mother, then, more perfectly than the most scrupulous devotee of the commandments.
One of Jesus' strongest judgments against the Pharisees is their mockery of this commandment: "God commanded, 'Honor your father and your mother,' and, 'He who speaks evil of father or mother, let him surely die.' But you say, 'If any one tells his father or his mother, What you would have gained from me is given to God, he need not honor his father.' So for the sake of your tradition, you have made void the word of God." (Mt 15:4-6)" Jesus fierce condemnation of the Pharisees here is mirrored in the Proverbs—words we should take to heart with fear and trembling: "If you curse father or mother, your lamp will go out in utter darkness" (Pv 20:20) and "The eye that mocks a father and scorns to obey a mother will be pecked out by the ravens of the valley and eaten by the vultures." (Pv 30.17)
As above, Christ said the Pharisees' sin here was to say: "If any one tells his father or his mother, 'What you would have gained from me is given to God,' he need not honor his father." So there is never any excuse not to give to one's parents what is due to them for care and honor. And what has Mary to gain from her Son but the full Glory of God which he receives from His Father? Thus he did when he crowned her Queen of Heaven and Earth: clothed with the sun, with the moon under her feet and on her head a crown of twelve stars (see Rv 12:1). So let us always be found singing "Hail, Holy Queen!" so that by honoring she who was fully honored by her Son, we may honor and worship her Son all the more.
But the purpose of Christ's lesson from today's Gospel is not a lesson in the veneration of His mother, as right and necessary as that is. He is teaching a deeper lesson about what it means to follow Christ, which is to do the will of His Father. To his disciples, he knows full well that there are times that one may have to make choices between family and faith, and he firmly declares that in such times, the choice can only be faith: "For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and a man's foes will be those of his own household. He who loves father or mother more than me is not worth of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me." (Mt 10:34-37) Our bond in the communion of the saints by the Holy Spirit, uniting us to the Body of Christ, runs deeper than the connections of genetics and family ties. The adage "Blood runs thicker than water" is deadly false when it comes to the waters of Baptism.
(Acts 2:11)—the division of the Tower of Babel had been destroyed (Gen 11:7).
By following the commandments to Love God with all our heart and all our soul and all our strength and to love neighbor as ourselves, we are drawn into the family of the Holy Trinity where we share in the Love that passes between Father and Son that is the Kingdom of Heaven. When Christ turns to his disciples, and by God's grace that will include us, and says "Here are my mother and my brethren" he is promising us the Kingdom of Heaven. By the intercession of his mother who already shares in that Glory, may we truly listen to the word of God and devote ourselves to living it, that we may one day come to inherit the Kingdom of Heaven as true sons and daughters of God. Amen.